Social Measures
By: Amina Bint al-Huda
The lady of the house, dressed in the latest
fashion, was waiting impatiently for her daughter Zaynab to get dressed for the
wedding party. The lady was impatient, and walked up and down the room. Now and
then she stopped in front of a mirror to have a look at her image. Her daughter
was a bit late, so she rang a bell and a pretty maid came in the room. She was
wearing a short dress and had her hair done.
The woman admired the attractive maid and said,
"I see, Samia, you have finished before your little lady. Go and tell her
to hurry up. We have no time to spare… It takes an hour to reach the bride's
house."
The maid replied, "Yes, my lady." Samia
left the room and soon returned, saying that Zaynab would be getting ready now.
Zaynab's mother became angry and exclaimed, "What has she been doing All
this time?"
The maid answered, "She has been
praying."
"Praying?! Oh, what an abnormal girl she is!
Go again and tell her to hurry up."
The maid went out and came back to announce that
Zaynab was coming.
The mother said, "What did you say? How
could she get ready in such a short time? Surely she will bring disgrace to me
at this party. How I pity her. She is spoiling her beauty by negligence and
indifference." Admiring herself again in the mirror, she saw her daughter
enter with a smile on her angelic face.
The daughter said, "Here I am mother, quite
ready."
Her mother gave her a sharp look, and said
ironically, "Of course you are ready! What is this? Are you going in this
long dress? Where is your make-up? Is there a girl of your age who does not
know how to color her lips or put on eyeliner except you? I have been waiting
all this time while you did nothing but pray. Now you say you are ready!"
Zaynab waited for her mother to finish, and then
she said politely, "Yes, I have performed my prayers since it is my
religious duty, and I cannot pray at the party which will end after prayer
time. My dress is not that long, but it certainly is not a mini. My hair is
tidy, with no need to waste my time at a hairdresser to be polluted with
chemicals. As for the make-up, of course, I know how to color my eyes and my
lips, but I feel this is not necessary. I like to show myself as I am, with no
mask on my face. "
Her mother turned her head away, disapproving of
her daughter's logic. She said, "Let us leave before you get on the pulpit
and give us a long sermon, as is your habit. But I feel bitterness when I see
the maid exceeds you in her good appearance."
Zaynab replied, "If such measures are the
true criterion, I agree that she does exceed me." The mother stated,” In
fact, I don't know how you are going to face the famous people there. You will
appear so poor and humble among the men and women."
"The party is not for both sexes,"
Zaynab replied.
"Had it been like that, I would not have
agreed to go. In any case, there will not be any singers or music of any
kind."
The mother laughed in a mocking tone and said,
"Then the party is for giving a religious
speech on the decency of hijab."
Zaynab answered quietly, “No! There is no
religious speech. It is only a formal farewell party to a bride starting her
honeymoon."
The mother feared delay, so she said to her
daughter, "Come on; tell me the details on our way to the party."
Zaynab put on a long black coat and a scarf on her head as she always did. They
got into their car, with the maid carrying a box of her mistress's cosmetics.
While they were driving, Zaynab's mother asked
her daughter, "How do you know that the party is not for both sexes?"
Zaynab answered, “It was supposed to take place at one of the clubs, according
to the bride's mother. But my friend, the bride, is a good believer, as you
know. Thus she refused to have her wedding party according to western values,
or in defiance of religious morals. Quarrels started between the mother and
daughter. But the groom took the side of the bride, and my friend insisted on
canceling the celebration. Finally her mother gave in and agreed to have a simple
farewell party."
Zaynab's mother was astonished and asked,
"Does the groom have the same reactionary beliefs as the bride?"
Zaynab tried to smile at her mother's cruel words.
She said, “Of course he has the same beliefs, and
he is of equal moderation. Otherwise, she would not have agreed to marry him. A
good believer does not marry a playboy who is totally different in beliefs and
ideals. Disputes in such matters are a serious threat to a marriage. How can
you brand such ideals 'reactionary' while they are the essence of our religion?
They are clearly elaborated in the Holy Qur'an .Our belief is the right path,
while the non-Islamic way is the reactionary one, since it goes back to the
primitive stage of humanity when there were no Divine creeds or human
values."
Her mother was affected by the argument and she
said," You are right, but civilization requires something different."
Zaynab replied, "Oh, mother! What
civilization is this? Tragedies and disasters are under the surface. Bright
masks hide devilish motives and inhuman desires. Oh, mother! We should not be
fooled by this civilization."
The mother spoke in a sorrowful tone, "This
is the general attitude of the day and the social measures that count."
"We shall try to defeat such
perceptions," Zaynab said. "We will prove that in a society, a young
girl can show herself through her real personality -not by her make-up or her
fashionable clothing. When she has an independent personality, she will taste
the sweetness of victory. It is contrary to woman's true nature to expose her
in a framework of fashion or make-up, which is only a means for public
exposure."
They arrived at the house of the bride. The
mother tapped her daughter on the shoulder and said, "May Allah bless you.
I wish I could have your strong faith and self-confidence."
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